We Wrestle not Against Flesh and Blood

Ephesians 6:12 KJV — For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness, in high places.

Do we still not understand? We have a grudge against our brother, sister, friend, parent, child, ex-spouse, et cetera et cetera because we think they are to blame, and there’s no excuse for what they did. They chose to hurt us the way they did, so we have a right to be upset, and our mind is made up.
And we would be wrong. The Bible clearly says, our battle may look like it’s with flesh and blood, it may feel like it’s with flesh and blood, there may be no humanly way to deny the facts saying its flesh and blood we are battling, yet still, we are told this is not the truth.

The Lord said to me, “so you believe this was done to you, for the ninth time, by the same person, and therefore they are absolutely to blame?”
Reluctantly, I admit the truth, I said, “yes, how can they not know what they are doing after repeating it nine times?”
He then asked, “have you never been the cause of someone’s suffering and pain without meaning them harm, and unknowing how you hurt them until much later?”
“I have,” I replied.
Next He asked, “have you ever been told that your actions caused suffering and pain for another and you responded with a roll of your eyes thinking how sensitive they must be, or have you denied their pain altogether believing no one could have possibly took you the way they did, therefore you became the true victim in your own eyes?”
My silence spoke more truth in that moment than any words I could use to answer. Still with head hung low, I said, “wow Lord, how could I be so blind?’ They are no more at fault than I was, yet true hurt and pain had been inflicted.”

We blame each other so quickly and unforgivingly. We won’t even hear their side as we feel we already know. Two sides, both unknowingly deceived by the enemy and ready to never give in. Both are ready to part ways unless the other realizes what they have done and convincingly apologizes.
Neither side has even the slightest understanding of the true plan of the enemy at work here because although scripture spells it out from A to Z as literal as it sounds, we don’t see how we can be used by the enemy at all. And we refuse to believe the enemy is to blame for all the actions and decisions of others either.

The truth, whether we want to believe it or not, is that our enemy has spent thousands of years studying us. A concept we may be able to contemplate but really have no understanding of. He knows how to use us against each other, and he knows exactly how to get an emotional reaction out of us. If we don’t make a conscious effort to be self controlled, especially over how things make us feel, he is happy to control our emotions for us. He is more than happy to tell us how we feel and how we should respond to our feelings.

We are taught from a young age how to control our actions no matter how we feel in order to be socially acceptable. Like not to hit, pinch, bite, or pull someone’s hair because they hurt our feelings. Or, like running to the bathroom when we need, instead of going out in the open like the dogs and other animals do. We are taught to respect authority even when it seems completely unfair. All things that we must learn to be at least socially acceptably self controlled.
We are not taught how to analyze and control our thoughts and emotions, just our actions in spite of our thoughts and emotions.

Thoughts, whether true or not, once emotionally accepted, then become our reality. This is how two people can go through the same experience and perceive the events and the effects of events differently. One may say they were scared to death and will never do that again, while the other says, “I laughed so hard I can’t wait to do it again.”

The word of God tells us. 2 Corinthians 10:5 KJV — Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

This is to say, we have control over what we think. We get to decide what we want to think before the thought takes root in our emotions. Our thoughts don’t have to become our reality unless we either decide to allow them to or choose not to be in control of them at all, thereby giving the enemy control of what reality we will live in.
I often hear people saying, “I can’t control what I think or how it makes me feel.” I, too, am guilty of these statements. God’s word tells me that by repeating these statements, I have repeated the enemy’s lies. God’s word clearly says I am in control of my thoughts if I choose to be, and how I allow myself to feel pertaining to my thoughts.

2 Corinthians 10:2-5 NLT — Well, I am begging you now so that when I come, I won’t have to be bold with those who think we act from human motives. We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.

Although I can not control what others do or say to me, I am in control of how I decide to perceive their actions and words. By consciously deciding my own thoughts about it, I also keep full control over how I’m emotionally affected by it. I’m no longer caught off guard taking offense and reacting.
I know the truth and refuse to be ignorant of the enemies schemes. I know that although someone I love may say or do things that hurt me, I am not truly fighting them. No, my true battle is with the enemy who so deceptively tries to conquer and divide, turning everyone against each other.
Because Father God forewarned me, this was one of the enemies tactics, I chose not to be hurt or offended, and I chose to react with the following Scriptures in mind;

Proverbs 15:1-4 NLT — A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. The tongue of the wise makes knowledge appealing, but the mouth of a fool belches out foolishness. The LORD is watching everywhere, keeping his eye on both the evil and the good. Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

Proverbs 21:23 NLT — Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.

Philippians 2:2-5 NLT — Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.

Colossians 3:13 NLT — Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

When I get hurt by someone, I know that although I felt a sting, I don’t have all the facts. Facts like

  • 1. What kind of day have they had?
  • 2. What triggered them to inflict pain upon me?
  • 3. What trauma from their past might be driving their present emotions?
  • 4. What lies might they have been told about me?
  • 5. Are they angry or hurting as bad as they are trying to hurt me?
  • 6. Did they even mean it the way I took it?
  • 7. Did I hear them wrong?
  • 8. Did something from my past cause me to be oversensitive?
  • 9. Is my mind blowing this out of proportion?
  • 10. Do they really mean me harm, or could it be all in jest?

The enemy is counting on me to make a move, react, respond, retaliate, or run. He doesn’t care how I choose to react so long as I react. Reacting is going into the battle blind, without strategy or facts. We can react without conscious thought. If, instead, I choose strategy, I would first gather facts, evidence, guidance, and understanding from wise counsel. Father God knows all the facts and hidden details that I need in order to claim victory over my enemies.

What the enemy didn’t expect was for me to choose not to react at all. He inflicted enough pain to constitute a tsunami of emotions flooding my perceived enemies territory, wiping them out without mercy.
The enemy never guessed I would choose to heed the warnings and wise counsel of God, and by putting on His armor, the enemy could not generate a reaction from me. I knew I was not really fighting the one who hurt me. That person was the disguise the enemy chose, so sure it would trick me into entering the battle unprepared.

We fight not against flesh and blood. Although it looks, feels, and hurts like flesh and blood, it’s really just the enemy trying to take us down!!

James 4:7 KJV — Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

Until next time, may God bless you and keep you as you seek Him with your whole heart.

Truth

I have found that when I think someone has wronged me, and owes me an apology, the Lord only moves on my behalf, once I ask Him to help me see the whole truth in the situation. This means I am seeking,  with sincerity, my own fault in the situation and not just focusing on my own feelings and hurt.

I learned a long time ago, that fault finding and gossip are both advocating for the enemy. He divides, destroys and blames.  If hate is where I’m focused then the enemy is who I am serving.

 If I put myself on a level that I can comfortably say to someone, “I have a “right” to be and stay angry” then I am a devil’s advocate. That’s elevating myself to be more important than the other person and it’s also saying I’m better than them because I didn’t do what they did.

Father God will not move on my behalf so long as I stay in this self-righteous, self pity mindset.

Romans 2:11 NLT — For God does not show favoritism.

He allows me time to pout and cry over my hurt and then decide if I want to stay there imprisoned by my rights or do I want Him to help me escape my prison of self.

Philippians 2:3-4 NLT — Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.

Romans 14:1 NLT — Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don’t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong.

Acceptance of someone as one of God’s beautiful, purposeful, unique creations, that was fearfully and wonderfully made, does not mean acceptance of their views or ideals.

Love does not mean we agree.

The show of kindness does not mean lifestyle acceptance.

To not pass judgment on someone or their lifestyle does not mean we join in or flaunt their choice of sin in front of the world demanding acceptance. We can hate the crime yet love the criminal.

Patience does not mean unaffected, uncaring or unmoved.

Self-control does not mean without our own opinion.

Peacekeeping is not the choice to be a follower or the license to be taken advantage of.

Mercy does not mean acceptance of someone’s wrong.

Forgiveness does not mean one’s wrong and one’s right.

Until next time, may God bless you and keep you while you seek Him with your whole heart.

God needs no apology

Daily repentance is not because God needs an apology. No, He is not vain or puffed up. He, came down as Jesus, to my level, made himself less, to save me, to show me how much He truly loves me. His love requires no apology to make Him any more right, any more holy, or anymore big. His love covers a multitude of wrongs.
1 Peter 4:8 NKJV — And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.
Daily repentance is required not for Him, but for me.
The enemy is less likely to beat me up, than he is to puff me up. If he were to beat me up, he knows, I’m way more likely to go to my Father in heaven when I’m down.
But now, if he can puff me up, making sure I feel good about who I am and confident that I am on the right track, I’m less likely to ask my Father in heaven for help. Why ask for what I don’t need? Right?
Oh so patiently the enemy waits, lurking in the shadow’s. Watching, waiting for that right moment, that precise moment he believes to be most impactful, detrimental, and sure to shatter both my heart and soul.
The enemy showing no semblance of mercy, goes to work setting the stage…
Everything is going so good. My heart is filling up as people are noticing Jesus living in and working through me. Even those that persecuted and hated on me are confronted with how much Jesus shown in my life. There’s no doubt lives are touched even changed. There might be a few things come up that question the validity of my walk and my heart, but I’m not perfect yet, I reason. I’m still growing and learning, God’s not finished with me yet. I can’t be Jesus, no one can, but I can be His vessel.
2 Corinthians 4:7 KJV — But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.
Life is moving in the right direction finally, and even though there are ups and downs, I’m not crushed or alone anymore. I’m feeling purpose, like maybe I do matter after all, maybe I have something to contribute in this world.
Stage is set, just one more final touch.
Life gets busy, so busy helping others, being there for others, ministering to others, I have less time to spend in Father God’s presence. I’ll pray throughout the day, read devotionals, talk and fellowship with like minded believers, I’ll think on a verse or two while I’m going from one place to another, yet, time on my knees, crying out to Him, in surrender, with my ego, pride, and heart laying in pieces before Him, has depleted to basically never.
And then, the fall…
Now the enemy makes his move, his kill shot, final blow. He knew this whole time what would irritate me. He knew this whole time what would bring out the ugly still hiding within me. He watched and waited, holding back, until now. Then all at once Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
Daily repentance is not about God wanting an apology. It’s to keep me in a place of true humility and therefore protect me from the enemy setting the stage for my fall. It’s also to keep my perspective about others, even those who prove to be my enemies, in check with the Truth only He knows. My only hope against the deception and dividing tactics of the enemy being able to use me, is knowing and understanding that no matter what I think I know, God and God alone knows the truth. I must trust Him and follow His directions for my own safety and wellbeing.
Therefore, I must repent with truth in my heart. Not from a place of fear and a mindset of not having a choice. No, be truly sorry for falling short, not wanting to disappoint God. Not wanting to hurt God. If my heart is not sorry because I live in a world that sees what I’ve done as normal, no big deal, or just expressing myself, then my heart is not truly repentant and I won’t change those ways in me. Before going before the Lord to repent, first I must go before Him and ask for Him to “right” my heart. I need to ask Him to open my eyes, my mind, and my heart to His ways. Then ask for Him to speak His Truth, the only Truth into my rebellious heart, so I may see. Also ask Him to show me His love, grace and mercy, so I can fall in love with Him and insomuch truly desire to want to please Him.
Sometimes a person isn’t sorry about certain sins because their lives have been lived in a fallen, rebellious, broken world and it’s hard to think of a normal, no big deal, thought or action as a sin. Other times the difficulty in seeing the truth about sin is in the fact our flesh enjoys the very thing being called sin. We really don’t want to let it go. We can’t see life without it. And still another reason can be because we have come to believe it’s who we are and being sorry for it means we are ashamed of who we are and of our true self. All these are strongholds.
2 Corinthians 10:4-5 NKJV — For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.
The truth is, simple, it’s Jesus.
John 14:6 NKJV — Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
No matter the stronghold that may be blinding me, the Truth, aka reality is, Jesus.
First I need to come into agreement with Jesus, The Truth. Then because I know and agree with Him, I ask Him to change my heart to reflect His. Finally, I make a daily habit of coming before Him, asking Him if there is any offensive ways still in me, while repenting for those offenses I already know I’ve committed.
I do this not for God’s benefit, but for my own.
Until next time, may God bless you and keep you, as you seek Him, with your whole heart.